Dating Success Tips
1. Live your life to the max! Creating a full life puts you in charge of your own happiness and puts less emphasis and dependency on finding a relationship to make you whole. You must be whole as a person first before a healthy relationship can be cultivated. By developing yourself, those internal feelings of zest and fulfillment will show on the outside as well. Very attractive indeed!
2. Know who you are, what your needs and values are, and what you stand for. This will take you far as you delve through the dating world. Having a clear vision and purpose will help to keep you centered and grounded on your quest.
3. Examine your relationship history and determine what behaviors worked for you and which ones didn?t. Identify the obstacles that prevent you from engaging in the kinds of relationships that you want.
4. Don?t confuse chemistry with compatibility. While that ?chemical spark? is important, a person?s enduring qualities are what really help to lay the foundation for potential long-term relationship success.
5. Determine if you are really ready for a relationship and assess your true motives. One of the biggest relationship ?sabotagers? is not being able to be fully present, being distracted by other needs or issues, and having other priorities that compete with the relationship. Determine if you are ?dateable? and develop goals to accomplish true relationship readiness. Develop your self-esteem and create a vision for how you?d like your life to be.
6. Don?t stay in a dating relationship that?s not working just for the sake of staving off loneliness or fearing hurting the other?s feelings. This only robs both of you of precious time that could be better served improving your quality of life in new directions. Learn to be assertive and direct with your needs and feelings.
7. Don?t bail out of a dating relationship at the first sign of trouble. Relationships take hard work and conflict is actually a necessary precursor to deeper connection and intimacy. Assess what?s missing and what the barriers are and determine if negotiation is possible. There can be no growth without healthy conflict; however, know the difference between that and when the relationship really isn?t a ?goodness of fit.?
8. Be proactive in getting what you want and take responsibility for what happens. Conquer your anxieties about taking initiative. Don?t stand on the sidelines hoping someone will make contact with you. Make that move yourself and choose to approach someone if you?re interested. Internalize the mantra: NO MORE MISSED OPPORTUNITIES!
9. Face your fears of rejection directly. A turn-down for a date has nothing to do with you as a person; it has everything to do with the other person?s projections and needs. Know that you are worthy and deserving.
10. Build your support network. Surround yourself with positive people who will affirm you and support you. Family and friends provide a much needed source of connection, love, and fun that can truly enhance your life as a single gay man.
11. Be careful of casual sexual encounters if your goal is to meet a prospective life partner. Typically sexual release is the primary aim of such encounters, which can confuse and disillusion you to the type of men available, believing that gay men only want sex and nothing more significant or with depth. Put yourself in situations where you are more likely to meet men with similar goals and if you choose to ?play along the way,? always practice responsible safe sex.
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Brian Rzepczynski
The Legality of Escort Services
Escort services is usually described where companionship is hired for a night of entertainment or for more a night of intimate but non-sexual services, such as massage. For the most part, these services are legal in the U.S. The state legislatures however recognize the reality that escort services are part of the adult entertainment business and pass various measures to control these services and to ensure that they are distinct from prostitution which is illegal everywhere (except strangely some outlying districts of Nevada).
The most obvious reason for this is anxiety is over the exploitation of minors. Others are rooted in an intolerance of prostitution in American culture since the prohibition era and the recognition that it is often a front for other organized criminal activities.
Different approaches are taken by different states. Some use a regulatory approach and attempt to control the activities that take place through indirect means. Utah taxes escort services where they advertise themselves through partial nudity (leaving the obvious loophole of advertising through fully but glamorously dressed females). North Carolina uses zoning laws to establish and maintain boundaries between adult entertainment areas and other 'family' zones. California law requires escort services to have a police license, thus allowing 'unsuitable' businesses to be closed without the necessity of proving criminal charges.
Both federal and state legislatures use anti-trafficking legislation to prevent adult services being sold across state lines again to prevent the exploitation of minors or foreign nationals.
AK is freelance writer and webmaster for london escortsby Amber Katz
Majority of Irish support rights for gay couples
Poll results released Sunday in Ireland show that a majority of that country's people support giving the same legal and financial rights to gay couples that straight couples already enjoy. The survey, sponsored by Dublin's Sunday Tribune newspaper, reveals that 64% of respondents favored extending tax, inheritance, and other benefits to those in same-sex relationships, the Irish News reports.However, the poll also found that 50% of the respondents opposed granting gay couples the right to adopt children. Although single people, gay or straight, can adopt in Ireland, no unmarried couple can.Only 37% of poll respondents supported letting gay couples adopt. The remainder said they did not know or had no opinion. (The Advocate)
Kirby in support of gay marriage
GAY High Court judge Michael Kirby has backed same-sex marriage in Australia, urging "equal justice under law for all".
Revealing he had considered and rejected the idea of marriage with his own partner of 38 years, Johan van Vloten, Justice Kirby yesterday questioned the Howard Government's laws that define marriage as specifically between a man and a woman.
As the ACT pushes ahead with plans to reintroduce laws offering "civil partnership" ceremonies for same-sex couples, Justice Kirby said the legal discrimination that flowed from the ban was "hurtful" and represented "dog whistle" politics.
"It is a source of puzzlement to Johan and me, as we go about our tranquil lives, that there are many fellow citizens - some of them well educated and very important - who seem to be threatened and upset by such relationships and who feel the need to discriminate against them by laws enacted or unenacted by our nation's parliaments," he said.
"It is (about) whether a secular civilian status of marriage under law should be denied to other citizens whose sexual orientation or identity makes it impossible and wrong for them to go through marriage with an opposite-sex partner just to keep up appearances or to make their families and society happy.
